Someone just reminded me that June is the big wedding season, so it can be a tough time for singles as they attend all of these lovey-dovey events.
Undoubtedly, they’ll have to endure the inevitable line of “single” questioning from some invasive relative or friend. “So, how long have been single?” “You are so great, why are you still single?” And so on, and so on…
Before I got married (at age 39) I dealt with this as well – for years. What I’d like to remind everyone of is … there is NOTHING wrong with being single. Every person on the planet is not meant to be married by age 27… or even 37! Being a single person, for many, means happiness, less stress, independence and adventure.
Now if you do get cornered by Aunt Sally, here are some possible responses:
“Why are you still single?”
• Because I choose to be.
• Because I will not settle for less.
• Because I can’t settle on just one person!
• Why do you think I am still single? (This will send them running.)
How do you deal with people asking you about your single status? What works for you?
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I remember being single and being asked that question for one I think it is a rude question so I do not think your response has to be polite. My response was “because I can be”.
I can’t seem to go a full week without getting asked this question and yes it is very rude to ask someone this. People tend to get angry with my responses because it usually come with some form of sarcasm.
When I get asked this its usually in the form of “do you have a girlfriend?”. My repsonse is usually “not at the moment”. And even though it has been a couple years since I’ve had a serious girlfriend I just take it in stride. I mean it would be nice but thats not gonna stop me living my life that I want it, and what I want to achieve. I just have to keep a look out for someone!
There are 13 girl cousins on my mom’s side and I am the LAST single one. I am constantly getting asked if I’ve met any nice men. My grandmother (a sweet, southern, demure lady) is particularly aggravating about it. After a three day long family gathering I was at my breaking point.
Grandma: “You’re so beautiful, I don’t know why you won’t just settle down”.
Me: “Well, I like having loud anonymous sex with strangers. I don’t think my husband would approve.”
It’s not true, but the shock value was enough to get her to shut up about it for a while. Now it’s kind of a running joke. I just come up with really awful things to say. My cousins and I have a quote board about it.
Grandma: “Have you met any nice young men?”
Me: “Nope, but I sure have slept with a lot of jerks”
I have been asked this question in several ways, “what’s wrong with you that you aren’t married?” or “why is a beautiful woman like you still single?”
Some of my friends tell me I am too picky and my response to this inquiry is always, “I won’t settle anymore.” I did with my first marriage. I know I deserve the best God has for me.” That pretty much makes the inquisitor back down.
I am constantly getting the comments. My dad in the middle of every extended-family dinner, “You’re 30 and not married yet, whats the problem- you’re not a dog…?” My mom with the constant, “I just don’t understand why you haven’t met anyone”- this is a weekly topic of ours. And any old guy friends I run into on facebook- “I can’t believe you are still single- how is that possible?” The answers are the same from everyone too- apparently I am either too pretty (totally average), present myself in an unapproachable manner (completely approachable and friendly to all) or am just plain intimidating to men (I am NOT)… all crap I tell ya!
I was divorced only a month, when the questions started regarding when I would start dating, have I met any nice men, when kind of guy am I looking for, etc. I can tell you one thing…. being single is less stress, I am the queen of my castle, I always get the remote, I buy a purse when I want a purse, and for me, I don’t have to support a man who makes less money than I do. I don’t have to answer questions about why I bought something. I mean really…. it was my money anyway !! I like this single life, and I will probably stay single. I would like to meet someone to date, for dinner or a movie. But not someone to live with or marry.
I felt that way too right after the divorce, now two years later Im more open to being in a relationship again…as long as they don’t ask me why I keep buying shoes! Haha
Yeah! Why are you single?!?!
Let see if there’s any honest answer.
Remember, this is the internet. You can tell the truth or lie through your teeth, it wouldn’t matter to anyone…except yourself.
How about this one, 3 weeks ago while attending a concert with my 2 brothers this idiot comes up and asks, “what are 3 guys doing at a concert with no women, are you all QUEER?”
He did bleed a lot!
@ DM Hilarious. Being single can and should be some of the best years of your life. Travel the world, try new adventures that maybe a spouse wouldn’t be up for. Do something that may sound crazy but that you have always dreamed off. If you are following your own adventure you won’t regret the time alone. There are TONS of single travelers out there as well, you might just stumble upon your soulmate then.