Sex and household chores are 2 of the most common topics US and Canadian couples disagree about (eHarmony study, 2010). In fact, household chores were one of the top 3 sources of disagreement for couples in Brazil, the UK, and Australia. Sex was a major source of disagreement for US, Canadian, and Australian couples. 
Although these are major areas of conflict, they are also part of what makes a relationship function well. Participants in the Pew Research study ranked faithfulness, sex, and sharing household chores as the most important qualities that make a marriage work (Pew Research study, 2007).
How are they related? And what does this mean for men?
According to research, the more housework men do, the happier their wives are (CCF, 2008). More housework done by men is associated with greater happiness and less conflict in the relationship (Coltrane, 2000). And since sexual frequency increases with marital happiness (Call et al., 1995), more household chores means a happier relationship and, therefore, more sex. In other words, if you are a man wanting more sex in your relationship, the vacuum cleaner could be your best ally.
What about for women? Research shows that household chores are also related to more sex for women too. Click here to continue reading…
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Now, we are talking, I’d have to agree with this wholeheartedly! More housechores for everyone!!
Wooo Hooo!
Just what I always said,
Nothing is SEXIER than a man who does DISHES!
-Lizzie
Ive done all the chores and was the best all around nice guy..she left me for the old playboy executive guy with his vette..its all about the money honey /gifts charm etc..woman want what they want at a particular time period ..than they want somethin else..woman rule..so dont even try to figure it out
I think this article is onto something, but there is no universal truth. Being thoughtful, helpful and considerate is its own reward, and if the person you are with is the person you should be with they will reciprocate, one way or another.
I hear ya, Joe. I’ve been promised the old Sun, Moon and stars (as soon as I …) Then, once I am drained of my last resources, she always takes off with Fresh Blood (who still has resources that aren’t yet drained). You could say that its just that one woman, that other women aren’t that way, but it keeps happening with woman after woman after …
It makes sense to me. Ephesians 5 (and other places in the Bible): For the marriage to work best, the woman should respect and submit to her husband, and the man should love his wife (not in that order). Submission _doesn’t_ mean that the woman should do all the housework—if anything, it means the opposite: The man has to love his wife, which includes doing things to help her, which includes housework—and not just a few things, but as many things as possible. There should never be a time when the woman is too tired to do some chore when the man doesn’t offer to do it instead—no matter how tired the man is. It’s his job to bear those burdens for her. (The passage in the Bible says he has to love his wife “as Christ loved the church”. Can you imagine Jesus, in His tireless work to save us, whining, “I took out the trash last time. It’s your turn to save yourself!”)
If the man loves and helps his wife tirelessly and joyfully (even when he’s tired and doesn’t feel like it), they’ll have a healthier relationship, and of course she’ll like him more and want to give him what wives can give their husbands.
Roger,
That was very well put. The challenge is to find a man that actually believes that way.
I never felt closer to a man than when we cooked dinner together and cleaned up together…..There should be balance
I did the vacuuming, the laundry, and the cooking, worked at LEAST 42 hours per week and I still got divorced, Who are you kidding?
In the end my wife told my son I was lazy!