Someone at work the other day told me he thought I was “high maintenance.” Granted, we were at a work dinner and I was ordering salad in my usual fashion ( hold the cheese and dressing on the side). I was amused by the comment and started thinking about it.
High maintenance isn’t necessarily a compliment, right? It sort of implies difficult to please, picky or even a pain in the … let’s just say neck. Does it make me high maintenance because I know exactly what I do and don’t like … or if I like things a certain way? Or like to shop? And am really decisive? Don’t get me wrong, I am also a big believer in just going with the flow and not wasting energy on sweating the small stuff.
To me, it just means that I know myself and am not afraid to share this with others or speak out. And if that is high maintenance, then I will proudly own it!
eHarmony research scientist Heather Setrakian just posted a fascinating blog about the topic as well … and even after all of that, I am still owning it!
Let’s open this up to you all – I would love to know what your definition of high maintenance is. Would you date someone you feel is that way or is it a big turn-off?
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Well, if knowing what you want and what makes you happy = high maintenance… well, so be it. I am high maintenance as well.
You ” GLAMORIZE ” HM as knowing what you want, but the reality is most people view a HM person as ” it must be my way ” because I’m special.
I began dating late last year after a suitable time since my wife passed away. As a man I can tell you that I am turned off by ‘high maintenance’ women – they are generally too self-concerned, self-absorbed and immature to be reliable in any meaningful sense or to put their partner ahead of themselves when the need is there.
Could you perhaps be confusing the word selfish with high maintenance? Just a thought. (smile)
When I think of “high maintenance”, I think of someone who obsesses about their appearance to the extreme: plastic surgery, (on a regular basis, frequent trips to the beauty salon, a person who only wears the most expensive clothes, jewelry, cosmetics, the works.
Vanity vs. high maintenance. Knowing what I want is a good thing. Not settling is a good thing… plastic surgery def no bueno.
Way to be consistent
http://advice.eharmony.com/relationships/breaking-up/top-eight-reasons-men-fall-out-love?slide=6
I would never date anyone that I thought was hard to please. I have no intentions of spending my life jumping through hoops, and living with someone who considered themselves “special” because of how they looked, what job they held, how much money they made, etc. I think when someone refers to “high maintenance”, it is a negative statement, and usually it means, “they are just not worth the trouble”.
When guy call girls High maintenance it is generally a simile for “pain in the ass.” Knowing what you want doesn’t equal high maintenance….stuff like unreasonably self absorbed or overly picky or in need to constant attention are more what is being talk about.