Comments on: Dating Don’t of the Day: Cheating

By: Cynthia

Cynthia — Tue, 14 Jun 2011 11:55:48 +0000

I agree. There is no moral, legal or spiritual committment when one “dates.”

You don’t own one another. Sounds like some of these women are a bit possessive. Or, perhaps they need the validation of being “exclusive” to that person. That is something that needs to be mutually agreed upon. And, this nonsense about having “total innocence” with regard to no fault of their own, may not actually be the case if they are that possessive.

If someone is truly happy in their relationship, cheating isn’t an issue. I am not saying I think cheating is ok, it isn’t. But if you are complaining that it’s being done while you are dating,make a different choice. Move on.

By: Roger

Roger — Fri, 03 Jun 2011 11:47:39 +0000

My ex found a sweet talker after 28 years of marriage. She denied it all along. I was working long hours and a long commute so she found someone who had the time and romanced her. I ended up finding someone to talk to but nothing really serious.
Now after the divorce she is looking for me to admit to all the times she suspected me of cheating over the years so we can share the blame of our marriage falling apart.
Well sorry I have nothing to hide but not about to admit to her fantasies so she can push the blame on me.
It sucks that it happened I tried my best to stop it but its over and I’m not making any concessions to soothe her conscience!

By: Mary

Mary — Fri, 03 Jun 2011 04:55:56 +0000

I have a man, whom I have been with five years, and he is living in another woman’s house after I kicked him out. HOWEVER, he still has our house key and comes and goes….sounds messy and it is. I caught him letting her out of his truck and kicked him out. For some reason, that he won’t give, he has not come home even though I asked. Go figure….

By: Lauren

Lauren — Sat, 28 May 2011 19:07:28 +0000

From what she told me, the wife is very suspicious of every other female that he knows. Or rather–the ones he knows and she herself hasn’t met. So i doubt the wife knows about this.

By: Eric

Eric — Sat, 28 May 2011 18:37:32 +0000

Jen,your story gives me the shivers….My ex calls me a control freak.I controled her life when she nagged me till I gave up all access to our money. Yelled and screamed and berated me for not cussing someone out who she felt deserved it. I wasnt a good husband because I didnt represent her and her best intereest as my first priorty. She worked therefore she deserved x.y.z. She ordered me out of our house,I refused to leave. She told me after she left I didnt love her or my children because I refused to leave our home.I left the door open to everyone but she said the only option was for me to leave. I tried to heal our marriage but she said I wouldnt change therefore our marriage is dead.I was a lover of money because I worked all the time and every cent went to pay our bills. I was responsible for all the bank over drafts when I had no access to the acccount. I was stealing her money stealing her car and controling her life after 10 years of marriage. Her car was purchased with help from my parents because we were in a tight spot……I am a control freak,I cant take care of myself,I cant make my own decisions. I cant even handle my own money. She cant stand me in controling her life anymore…..Because Im a control freak…..Amazing,I havent had money problems since she ran out the door. She said she was glad I finally grew up….I afterall am a control freak.

By: jen

jen — Thu, 26 May 2011 16:46:49 +0000

I meet my husband when I was 18 and had a baby 1 year later! We got engaged at 19 and were married at 23 yrs. I always had a feeling because of his behavior and when i accused i was physically and verbally attacked. I wasn’t aloud to see my family either. He started a job working 3rd shift at a hospital and started having a 2 yr. relationship with her. She would call and harass me and he said it was in my head. Needless to say I forgave him and went to therapy and he walked out. I wanted out amd was terrified after he tried to kill me on Thanksgiving 2006. He moved out, but still acted like my controlling husband. I was aloud to hang out with 1 girl who he approvrd of and we became best friends. We open a business in 2000 which i worked day and night and he was off with other women. I have always suspected he and my best friend had a thing and I was right. He ran me off the road and i called the police and got a restraining order. He has lived with my ex best friend for the last 5 years. She knew what he was and she thought “He won’t do that to me”! Wrong, everyday he calls me and says I love you and I want you back. I laugh I just started dating after 5yrs. and I am finally happy!! My son just turned 18 yrs old. I must say I will always be looking over my shoulder. Happy to be free!!!!!

By: Heather

Heather — Tue, 24 May 2011 12:42:07 +0000

Zuri, I had the same type of situation…it is very scary to find out that someone you love is not who you thought they were and that your feelings are based on lies they’ve told. Stay strong, you aren’t alone and it isn’t your fault.

By: mallory

mallory — Tue, 24 May 2011 06:48:45 +0000

i really need anothers viewpoint, im at a loss! the man ive been with for three years and have a beautiful seven month baby girl with has my mind, heart and everything completely boggled. a few months ago i found out about a couple of things hes done…i told myself i would try to put it behind us and give our family another chance. i really do care for him and when not thinking about those incidents we get along amazingly, i just cant seem to stop thinking about it! he doesnt seem to truly care, in my eyes, because everytime i try and talk to him about it he gets angry and starts fighting with me. i cant seem to get past this on my own and dont know how to move forward. please give me insight.

By: Eric Lichtenwald

Eric Lichtenwald — Mon, 23 May 2011 00:55:57 +0000

If he or she cannot be exclusive at boyfriend and girlfriend then you are simply friends with no ties at all. If you truly are conserned inside about this issue ask yourself honestly why. Trust your feelings but balance it with knowledge. As I discovered after the explosion the redflag was there at the begining, I simply lacked the balance to see it.

By: Eric Lichtenwald

Eric Lichtenwald — Mon, 23 May 2011 00:04:39 +0000

I married 10 years ago,I new my wife for 6 years before. When she walked out on farm,my business I just started and everthing we ever dreamed of. I was devastated, when I cleared my head 4months later,I found a second cellphone. Between it and comments she made to me before she walked out.she had beenn using this website for sometime. This site is a nice tool when used as intended.But she did this because she needed a friend to meet her needs. Im just the person to blame……You dont make me happy sindrome. I guess with 2 previous marriages I should have suspected something was wrong inside her,but I was blind to it. If someone you meet blames everything on outside factors take my advice dont stick around.