I’m so thankful for the voluminous feedback I received to my post on first date kissing and whether you have a policy against it. It can be difficult to roll down and read a large number of comments, so I’ve done my best to count and categorize the votes on the issue. This is imperfect, but will give you some idea of how your fellow eHarmony readers think.
NO KISS, NO WAY
A kiss equals love and I don’t give my heart away on the first date – 5 votes
I want to build excitement towards that eventual kiss – 2 votes
I’ve never kissed anyone ever, under any circumstance – 1 vote
I don’t even kiss on the 3rd or 4th date – 1 vote
You’re total strangers. Who wants to kiss a stranger? – 2 votes
You might catch a disease!? – 2 votes
What if they are kissing other people? That’s disgusting – 3 votes
If you’re not careful that kiss leads to…well…you know – 3 votes
Your date might take your kiss as a sign to attack you – 1 vote
No reason given – 5 votes
IF CONDITIONS ARE FAVORABLE, WHAT’S THE HARM?
It’s a good compatibility test – 1 vote
If the night is going great, a kiss seems appropriate and harmless – 10 votes
Making a policy about such things seems silly and rigid – 2 votes
I assume if things are going well and he/she won’t kiss me, that they aren’t attracted to me – 3 votes
So, the straw poll has it 25 No Kiss, 16 Kiss. Interesting.
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I would lean towards you might catch a disease. I guess ask yourself this question would you drink after that person if not you really do not want to kiss them.
I say yes, because looking for a life time mate is very serious. If we got to a date then I been guided and one kiss will tell it all, their is magic or not. And good kissers more than not turn out to be good lovers. If she is a prude and frigid then we are not gonna get along and may as well not waist each our time. One for real Man. William
I would have to say it would come down to how long you have been communicating prior to the first date and how much you’ve learned about each other before hand. If you’ve taken the time here on eH and talked on the phone, the hope is you should have a pretty good ‘feel’ for the person. So, catching a disease would most likely be figured out. But, then again, I’m in the “older” age bracket and my chances are lowered…
I recently dated someone who thought that kissing meant that I wanted to have sex…this is definately going to make me think twice with the next guy…NEXT!
Ugh..Im the notorious first date make out person. If the chemistry is so there, I go for mine. I also love PDA. I dont think a kiss is a big deal. Sex on the other hand is, and should be handled with care.
I do not see a problem with kissing on the first person especially if your looking for that one special person to spend the rest of your life with