Don’t be a Desperate Dater

May 2, 2011

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desperate 300x221 Dont be a Desperate DaterI almost feel bad outing my friends constantly — but they give me the best blog topics!

So anyways, I invited a girlfriend to go out for a hike Sunday and waited – and waited – for her to give me an answer about whether she could join us or not. The reason for her hesitation? She was waiting to see if her new guy might want to hang out. Long story short, he did finally get around to calling her at 10:30 a.m. Sunday and they went to a movie, but was this the right choice for her? I am sure you know where I am going with this…another dating don’t!

Don’t wait around the phone for him/her to call. Don’t put your life on hold, or your friends on hold, as you wait to see if this person will grace you with their presence. These are serious signs of what we like to call a “desperate dater.” Sorry, friend!

Your time is valuable, and everyone should know it. I think it is extremely desirable if the one you’re dating sees that you are someone who has a full life, packed with friends and plans! If they sense that you are, in fact, waiting by the phone, it makes you a little less interesting and appealing.

What else makes one a desperate dater?

Accepting a last minute date week after week.

One that ditches their pals when they find a new love interest.

The person who constantly worries they will get dumped. This gives off a clingy vibe and is a big turnoff.

Fishing for compliments. Most can see right through that insecurity and need for validation.

It seems to always come back to having a good sense of self worth. Your time is precious and you are even more precious. Of course that is easier said than done, which is all the more reason to commit to building a positive self image. It will pay off hugely in the end if you learn to love yourself – and be patient with the process.

Anyone dealing with this issue? Would love to hear about it!

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