Comments on: Do You Have a Policy Against the First Date Kiss?

By: Amanda

Amanda — Fri, 09 Mar 2012 12:18:00 +0000

Precisely! Not kissing has nothing to do with the number of dates and everything to do with the fact that such a gesture should be reserved for someone you feel has great potential to be the one you kiss for the rest of your life. It’s about being patient and waiting on God’s timing. In addition, the reason women may have this “rule” more than men is because women tend to attach more emotion to physical intimacy than men. To a man, a kiss is probably just a kiss, but to a woman, she’s more likely to give her heart away in that moment.

By: elle_ess

elle_ess — Thu, 16 Feb 2012 07:33:39 +0000

Karen, I agree wholeheartedly. It’s a first date, for goodness’ sake! If “this” is anything of substance, there’s plenty of time for kissing as the relationship progresses. And, if we aren’t connecting in other ways, why would I want to connect with a man in this way? Deviating from what’s expected does not render me a deviant. I prefer kissing (and all intimacy) to be reserved for more than, “hey, you’re kinda cute and we’ve known each other for three hours.” Our society has cheapened kissing, cheapened intimacy… I choose not to. Also, I can quickly see whether a man is more focused on his own desires than on my beliefs and comfort level. If he puts himself first on a first date, that’s unlikely to change.

By: Alvin

Alvin — Wed, 08 Feb 2012 07:46:03 +0000

One thing that I have seen is that men are turned on by what they see and women by touch. Men and women are totally different. So a kiss may not mean much to the man but has a totally different effect on the woman. Men really do not know how the woman feels when touched and woman do not understand what men feel by site. Each think that the other responds the same way they do. That is why women dress sexy but wonder why men are looking at them (they are probably trying to be fashionable and are actually dressing to impress other women with their fashion sense and do not realize what they are doing to the men).

By: Alvin

Alvin — Wed, 08 Feb 2012 07:34:16 +0000

Thats right

By: Noa

Noa — Sun, 08 Jan 2012 22:29:15 +0000

I agree! If you feel its right than its right! I personally am a huger. I hug everyone when i meet them and when i say goodbye. Why do i need to change because of these “social rules”?
Be yourself and stop with making/following these unwritten rules!

By: Kristen

Kristen — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 23:05:03 +0000

Thank you, Keren…thank you.

By: Jeanne

Jeanne — Sun, 20 Nov 2011 20:04:16 +0000

cough, cough
“do you have a cold?” he said
“yes”
“I’m not kissing you,”
“You always kiss the girl on your first date?”
“I always try.”

I didn’t kiss him on the first date only because I couldn’t. We couldn’t wait to see each other again and he was definitely worth the wait.

I know within the first five minutes whether my date’s kissable or not. If I have to wait for the third date to kiss, it’s too late- you’re already in the “friend” category.

Bottom line- I have very few rules when it comes to having fun.

By: Butterfly

Butterfly — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 00:17:10 +0000

In most cases, I am not going to go out with a man or meet someone that I do not know a bit about or am interested in. I will know for the most part early on if I want to kiss him. I can also gauge how soon the date needs to be over with. If I am enjoying myself I will be more open to spending more time with him. I guard my safety and often do several things to check them out. Sexuality is an important factor in a relationship for me and some older men just ARE not! I am 60 years old, feel and look much younger.

By: Gail

Gail — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 21:39:50 +0000

My policy is to go with the flow. If things are going well and I know I want to see him again, he gets a kiss (assuming he wants one). If they’re not going well or I’m not sure how I feel, then I’m not likely to kiss. I will almost always give a brief hug after a first date, even if I’m not up for a kiss. I just think it’s a nice way to end the date (unless he was awful).
That said, there are different kinds of kisses and to me a first date kiss is a closed mouth kiss. Also, I would be put off by a guy who was pushy about it.
Life is too short for strict rules. You never know what may happen…take a chance!
Just for the record, I’m sixty-one years old and happily involved with a man who didn’t try to kiss me on our first date, but did hold my hand across the table…and I almost never hold hands on a first date!

By: Phil

Phil — Sun, 06 Nov 2011 20:40:37 +0000

Then again, there are those people who will do ANYTHING for a kiss, just to get a kiss from some “handsome” or “beautiful” stranger, for its own sake. If there’s no connection, or chemistry, or romance, forget it. i.e. Cardboard is not the best thing to kiss, in other words, if your connection is dry as a bone, it’s time to say “next!”