Do You Have a Policy Against the First Date Kiss?

April 21, 2011

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Imagine if you will an amazing first date. You’ve spent 5 hours together and the conversation has flowed effortlessly. You planned to just meet for late afternoon coffee, but the evening just took off. You went to dinner, and now you’re taking a stroll through a beautiful green park on a warm spring night. Before you know it, you’re arm in arm and laughing together. Wow, you haven’t felt this way in a long time. You stop to catch your breath. Your date leans over without a word to give you a kiss, and you…

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Put your hand up and say, “Hey, I’m sorry. I never kiss on the first date.”

Really? Would you derail a night of romance and connection with a policy like this? I know some people, and yes it’s mostly women, just have a life policy of NO FIRST DATE KISSES. No matter what! It seems a little odd to me, and so I’m interested in hearing from you. Why? Are you worried that a kiss will lead to a premature act of intimacy? Are you afraid of giving the wrong impression? (Like perhaps that you enjoy kissing) What is it about a romantic smooch that makes you adopt such a hard line?

I would REALLY love to hear from a man who has such a policy.

And if you happen to be on a date with someone who says such a thing how does that affect your attraction? Do you just move on with the knowledge that a second date is around the corner? I know a man who went a date with a woman who told him, “I’ve had a great time tonight. I just won’t kiss you on the first date.” He said, “Okay, Have a nice evening. I’ll call you.” He drove away from the restaurant, immediately called her on his mobile phone, and said, “Are you free tonight?” He drove around the block picked her up, said, “Happy 2nd date!” and she happily kissed him. Is that cheating?

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