Comments on: Is He Your Boyfriend? http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2011/04/19/is-he-your-boyfriend/ eHarmony experts’ take on dating, relationships and the science of love Mon, 11 Mar 2013 14:53:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: Amym http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2011/04/19/is-he-your-boyfriend/#comment-4247 Amym Sun, 23 Oct 2011 16:18:20 +0000 http://advice.eharmony.com/blog/?p=8220#comment-4247 I think women are more emotional than Men. They invest their time and emotion in one assuming that this one may be their perfect.

]]> By: Pete http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2011/04/19/is-he-your-boyfriend/#comment-2123 Pete Wed, 11 May 2011 18:49:14 +0000 http://advice.eharmony.com/blog/?p=8220#comment-2123 Clint, you and I are in the same boat.

]]> By: Pete http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2011/04/19/is-he-your-boyfriend/#comment-2122 Pete Wed, 11 May 2011 18:47:23 +0000 http://advice.eharmony.com/blog/?p=8220#comment-2122 I agree with this as well. Masao is right. I recently been seeing a new girl who was fantastic. I traveled out to see her 5 times. Spent weeks together. We enjoyed each other, until after the middle of March, so wrote on a note and marked, will i be her boyfriend. I was taken aback from this. We never discuss the relationship. I lived in Calif and she lived in Texas. So my last trip she said i didn’t step it up to make her mines, well all she did while we were together was texting people, ex boyfriends, talk to other guys while were in sports bars, so i really didn’t get the feeling that she was ready for me.
Now, she said she has a date. She seems so desperate to have a man. She’s been divorced for 17yrs, what is the problem? I guess on both our parts, the communication, she was afraid to tell me in my face that this wasn’t gonna work out. Her lost not mine.

]]> By: Clint http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2011/04/19/is-he-your-boyfriend/#comment-2017 Clint Fri, 06 May 2011 23:12:19 +0000 http://advice.eharmony.com/blog/?p=8220#comment-2017 Women are as capable of this as men! I have lived it first hand! I did not ask the right question, and she kept her secrets until I was all in! 7 months, twice a week! Two other men, I had no idea! Then it was to late, I wanted forever, and she wanted to pass the time! I can’t put blame on her she would have told me if I had asked!
Just ask and be clear! OUCH

]]> By: Aimee http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2011/04/19/is-he-your-boyfriend/#comment-1988 Aimee Fri, 06 May 2011 19:26:41 +0000 http://advice.eharmony.com/blog/?p=8220#comment-1988 I actually agree with Masao, because I am a woman, and I usually act like ‘a man’. They are usually the ones thinking we’re exclusive, and I don’t haha, which is why I always tell them a wee bit into it that in order for me to be your girlfriend, you have to ask the question! Once you ask me to be your girlfriend, and I say yes, we are official =). No drama, no misunderstandings, no complications. I know you may think you’re too old for such ‘fairytale-youngster-stuff’, but seriously try it – it’s rid everyone of confusion. And also, your anniverary will be MUCH easier to pin-point =)! Ah!

]]> By: Masao http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2011/04/19/is-he-your-boyfriend/#comment-1933 Masao Wed, 04 May 2011 09:02:16 +0000 http://advice.eharmony.com/blog/?p=8220#comment-1933 Okay, this one I simply don’t get. How is it any different when a woman does the same thing??

It has been my experience that women do this too. Men are not the only social butterflies on the planet.
When did become a “men do this but women don’t” issue?

]]> By: Jeannie http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2011/04/19/is-he-your-boyfriend/#comment-1790 Jeannie Fri, 22 Apr 2011 15:22:28 +0000 http://advice.eharmony.com/blog/?p=8220#comment-1790 Sammy – always trust your instincts. It could poss. be a red flag if he is in contact with old girlfriends. I think at this point it might be a good idea if you just be direct with him and find out what he is looking for. Good luck to you and keep your eyes open :)

]]> By: sammy http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2011/04/19/is-he-your-boyfriend/#comment-1782 sammy Fri, 22 Apr 2011 09:31:17 +0000 http://advice.eharmony.com/blog/?p=8220#comment-1782 Jeannie,
I am not sure if this is in direct response to your blog, but I felt it was relevent. What is you are EXTREMELY clear, he agrees on exclusiveness and then pulls back a bit on commitment, without dating someone else. I don’t mean live with or possess, but old girlfriends are still in contact, regularly? Is it wrong to look at that as a warning? How long should you hold off on making it clear that you are a one/one win/win kinda person if he doesn’t bring it up? Is there some kind of test to tell if he is a player?

]]> By: Robert http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2011/04/19/is-he-your-boyfriend/#comment-1745 Robert Fri, 22 Apr 2011 00:57:11 +0000 http://advice.eharmony.com/blog/?p=8220#comment-1745 Well, I have to admit. I have to agree with guys must act differently. I was recently caught off guard one day when I was dating a ralatively new girl. She new a friend of mine from her work, complete coincidence, she told me she talked to him and told him that we were dating. She referred to my friend as if we are an official couple. I was completely drawn back, and put a stop to it right away. It is potentially my fault as well….lack of clarity.

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