Wouldn’t it be fantastic if there were some well known rules of dating we all followed — sort of like the ones we (usually) adhere to while driving, working or even filing our taxes (sorry, that comes to mind since I just did this). I know I may be dreaming here, but it would just make the dating world such a more welcoming space if everyone followed some basic “kindness” guidelines.
One of my favorite books ever, The Four Agreements, could easily translate into the four rules of dating. In case you haven’t seen these, here are the basics:
#1: Be Impeccable With Your Word. This alone could change the dating landscape tremendously. Can you imagine if people truly said what they meant, were very careful about what they said, and spoke truthfully and honestly? Wow.
#2: Don’t Take Anything Personally. This is a big one. If we could lessen the rejection aspect of dating and not take it to heart, that would be a real blessing. Allowing things to roll off your back and just chalking them up to learning experiences is a great gift.
#3: Don’t Make Assumptions. Ding ding! We are all guilty of this — and not only in dating relationships. Most of the time I have found that what I am assuming about another person is actually wrong! So, the message here is — try not to sit around wasting time analyzing what she/he meant when she said that, etc. It’s a waste of time.
#4: Always Do Your Best. Be the best person you can be in each moment and you will hopefully have little regret. Life feels so much better when you are being an honorable human being and acting accordingly.
What dating rules would you like to see enforced?