Comments on: Does It Matter to You If Your Matches Read Books?

By: Kathy

Kathy — Thu, 05 Jan 2012 07:48:29 +0000

I’m always drawn to a new friend’s bookshelves. The variety of books they read inspires conversation, piques interest, keeps me curious about them.

By: literacy counts

literacy counts — Fri, 28 Oct 2011 21:12:01 +0000

I am a woman in book publishing. Lots of female singles in that industry! And lots of rueful dating stories shared. Here’s how my publishing friends summarize a date with a non-reader: “He had to read a book once. It was in high school.” That’s what the non-reader tells you after he finds out you work in book publishing. It’s also when you know this date will not be a success: he starts acting as if he’s out with an exasperated schoolteacher, and you start to think of him as, well, not very interesting.

That leads me to a related topic: almost illiterate writing. You don’t have to be amazing, but why not try to be coherent? Spellcheck can’t hide all problems but it sure is a good start–spend the extra five seconds! Seems like those who need it most use it least. It’s hard to date a man who’s been through a “devorce” without learning how to spell it. Or who enjoys “fine dinning.” (Does that involve excessive noise?)

Sorry–I know I’m being awful, but I hope I made you laugh, at least.

By: Michael

Michael — Mon, 17 Oct 2011 18:13:46 +0000

1. Books are more important than movies,etc. Its a conscious decision to invest that kind of time, so it matters more I think.
2. I think reading is more active and stimulating method than TV.
3. It matters more that they read vice what they read. Some people are just not that into reading – they learn better in other ways. Also: If they have a job where all they do is read (med student, lawyer, judge, editor) then if they don’t read after work its more understandable.
4. I do read books as a matter of habit and wish I had more time to do so.

By: Mickey

Mickey — Thu, 01 Sep 2011 15:07:35 +0000

Reading is important, even if it’s just a magazine, or a how to book.

Having that question is a very nice feature… and if someone feels like they need to lie about the books they are reading in order to sound more intelligent it will be clear very quickly that they are not as smart as they are trying to sound.

I read so I can write better, relax at the end of a long day, escape reality, and have something to talk about with my friends (most of whome love to read as much as I do).

Please keep it as an option… (by the way I have a feeling that (mostly)only the readers are going to be reading this article and therefore this is going to be very one sided… lol.

By: Christina

Christina — Sun, 28 Aug 2011 04:07:42 +0000

Lizzie!I like everything you said! Right On!

By: Batataqueen

Batataqueen — Thu, 18 Aug 2011 12:34:20 +0000

Reading means nothing. The titles mean a lot!

By: Elzi Fourcher

Elzi Fourcher — Tue, 28 Jun 2011 02:09:34 +0000

If a persona doesn’t read it is not a match for me,period.

By: Mark

Mark — Fri, 24 Jun 2011 01:13:49 +0000

Whoever dies with the most books, WINS!

Yes, it’s important for my matches to read. Not as important that they read the same things I do, but is important that the have the discipline of reading words on a page. The attitude that “I love books! They are so decorative” is such a turn-off.

By: Cheryl

Cheryl — Wed, 22 Jun 2011 06:45:59 +0000

1. Do you see the books a person reads as more or less important than the movies they read, the music they like and the television shows they watch?

The important thing is that they read – I’m sorry, but movies, television and music don’t demonstrate the same level of ability to focus, pay attention, or concentrate. Popular movies and TV (in general) are designed to attract people with short attention spans. To really love reading, you have to be willing to commit to something tangible for a fairly long period of time.

2. Do you think that reading books are any indicator of intelligence? In all honesty, do you perceive a difference between a person who reads pulp romance novels and a person who watches pulp romance television?

I would give someone bonus points for reading as a hobby in general; what they choose to read will either add points or deduct points, depending on the degree of thought required to complete the reading. Someone who occasionally watches pulp romance TV would not be a big deal; someone who knows the intimate details of every character on whatever soap opera is left on TV? Big problem!

3. What matters more to you a) That a person reads at all. B) That a person reads books that you admire or approve. (Let’s set aside the crazed person that lists Mein Kampf as their favorite book.)

A would get someone in the door; B would be a factor in determining compatibility. And “approve” isn’t really the issue here; it’s more “admire” or “enjoy.” “Approve” smacks of control, which is never attractive!

4. Do you read books as a matter of habit?

Yes, but not in a mindless, lack-of-forethought/choice way. I read books as a matter of choice about how to spend my leisure time, and because reading is an enjoyable hobby, it is my habit to read, rather than to watch sit-coms on TV or garden or do laundry…..

By: PinkCottage

PinkCottage — Fri, 17 Jun 2011 03:33:54 +0000

It is very important to me that my partner enjoys reading. It isn’t about intelligence. It tells me that he can relax on his own. It doesn’t matter what he enjoys reading, but similar reading interests would be more fun. Someone who reads is more apt to consider other points of view in the world, and (I think)it leads to personal growth.