I recently came across a Boston Globe article by Richard Florida, author of the book “Who’s Your City?,” that looked at the best U.S. cities for single men and women. Quite surprisingly, the trends don’t appear to vary so much city by city, but rather East of the Mississippi River and West of the Mississippi River. In the end, it boils down to the quirks of demographics and job opportunities.
For Women, The West Is Best
Starting in Minneapolis, Dallas, and moving westward single men outnumber single women. In greater Los Angeles, there are 90,000 more single men than women. In Phoenix and in the San Francisco Bay area, single men exceed women by 65,000. Las Vegas, Seattle, Denver and many of other western towns all boast male heavy populations.
Why are there so many more men in these towns? As the article points out, men are drawn to jobs in construction and high technology — positions that have been growing in the West during the past 10 years.
In The East, The Men are Least
If you travel east of the Mississippi River things start to change, especially in the large northeastern cities. In the New York City and Northern New Jersey areas, women outnumber men by over 210,000. The same kind of large differential happens in Philadelphia, Detroit, and Washington D.C. The article theorizes that women flock to these urban centers in their prime marrying years mostly to find eligible men. The demographics of the situation mean that many of these women stay single and continually increase the population of single marriage-age women.
What This Means for The Online Dater?
I think it’s a great idea to examine the singles map and get a handle on the male/female ratio in your town or city. It may make the dynamics of your dating life much more explainable. Have you had a very difficult time finding a great woman to date in Los Angeles? It’s a woman’s market in LA with the higher numbers of single men.
When it comes to your online dating strategy, the key changes you need to consider are in your geographic range – the area in which you want the system to search for matches. If you are a woman and you happen to live in a town with a much larger population of women, it would naturally behoove you to extend your range outward. You’re going to need a larger general area from which to search.
If you are in a city where your gender is at a premium, you can consider keeping a tighter geographic range depending on the volume of matches you’re receiving.
Another consideration when it comes to your town and online dating is your level of patience. Let’s take an extreme example. Say you go to Georgia Tech in Atlanta and you want to pull your matches from that immediate vicinity. The school population is 73% men, and so a guy looking for a match may need to prepare for a wait – regardless of how well he does with his profile or photos. There are only so many Georgia Tech women to go around.
Demographic realities can have a significant impact on your dating life. Be sure to think about the ways you may need to adapt your search. And, just in case, here’s a link to Uhaul.