Comments on: The Meantime Guy: A Do or Don’t?

By: Ana

Ana — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 07:23:57 +0000

I totally feel this whole article, Ive had several MG in my few years, to me I know what kind of guy i would want to end up with but I like having fun w guys that I know nothing beyond enjoying the moment is ever going to happen

By: NEX-5N

NEX-5N — Thu, 17 Nov 2011 22:02:32 +0000

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By: LMC

LMC — Sun, 06 Nov 2011 01:30:25 +0000

I met a beautiful man who is shorter than me, younger than me & in much better shape than me. He used to say he wanted to date someone shorter, younger & Asian. I’m the exact opposite. Yet as he has entered into relationships in the past couple years with his “ideal partner,” he is not satisfied and tells me his girlfriends are jealous of me and our friendship. There is a spark between us & our friends often talk as if he & I are in a relationship (inviting us together to events & so on.) It reminds me of Harry & Sally, frankly. It’s not as if there are lots of men asking me out. Even on eHarmony, men have approached me only to have me discover the last line of their profile reads, “no fatties!” Yeah. Thanks. I just want to be loved for who I am. My hope is to be someone’s friend before they accept me as a lover. My man friend has asked me, “How is it we never got together?” My answer? Everything happens in its own time. Maybe someone will drop in on my wave & whisk me away. Maybe then my friend will realize what he lost by waiting. He knows I’m attracted to him: His girlfriends told him as much & he believes them, despite my neither confirming nor denying. Yet, he always comes back to me. I’m so open minded about who I’m attracted to physically that I can’t understand people shutting themselves off to people outside of certain parameters. It makes no sense.

By: bronzelle

bronzelle — Thu, 27 Oct 2011 00:40:39 +0000

where’s the article on meantime woman?

By: Almost there

Almost there — Sat, 15 Oct 2011 17:02:48 +0000

I just (hesitantly,I might add)broke off with my MG… took me 3 months to finish it. I see that I can do this without a crutch!

By: bendthebracket

bendthebracket — Sun, 11 Sep 2011 04:13:27 +0000

How does objectify a person in the “meantime” benefit you in the long run?

There is something to be said for people who are strong enough to stand on their own and appreciate all that life has to offer.

If you make a habit out of using people to better your life, what makes you deserving of a committed and unconditional relationship?

By: Kayle

Kayle — Sat, 03 Sep 2011 14:02:14 +0000

@morefun: it’s so nice when MGs are not crazy, isn’t it? Glad for u.
Also he’s what you call a buddy.Which is normal and healthy… it’s not insulting or using unless you’re on different pages or manipulating or lying. Which, you know, you could be actually dating if you wanted to worry about that…

Ps: women have their own similar dysfunctions, just nobody normalizes it, not even women. And the article is about men.

By: Kayle

Kayle — Sat, 03 Sep 2011 13:52:29 +0000

Right w/ you, Dani. What a mess! MG who are wannabe players are the worst!! Even when you say you’re not in the market for something long term with them, they pull that whole routine from beginning to end. It’s a domination thing and can really get to you if you stay in the situation too long. Or if they start stalking you.

By: Kayle

Kayle — Sat, 03 Sep 2011 11:50:33 +0000

Well, not the only thing changed, thank goodness, but it ain’t Scandinavia out here. We like to pay lipservice to a lot of things and it’s really confusing if ever expect the words to be true.

By: Kayle

Kayle — Sat, 03 Sep 2011 11:46:27 +0000

The meantime guy has done lot more damage because he can’t deal with the concept of a woman thinking he’s the meantime guy. I mean that literally. He can’t wrap his head around it and he thinks she’s “dating like a man”: a man-eating, dirt-eating, lying h* who’s secretly in love with them or just a callous b*. These are your options. Most if them will make it known at some point.
And usually to regain control if they sense they might be on their way out or, ha-get this- on their way in to a relationship theyre not in unilateral control of.
The only thing changed since the “sexual revolution” is the frequency with which some men have sex and the quality of their female partners. Many men of MANY heterosexual persuasions still can’t wrap their heads around female sexual or romantic autonomy when it’s convergent with their own desires. and they will make her pay for it, either way.
If you haven’t met a nasty one, ladies, you’re either too lucky or you haven’t been dating long enough. The one you give in to during a dry spell cam be your worst nightmare and leave you too damaged for the decent. Buyer beware.