He Said, She Said: How eHarmony Worked for Us

December 4, 2009

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Meet eHarmony Success Couple Jamie and Andrew. A year ago tomorrow, they were matched by eHarmony, and now, they’re engaged to be married.  Read their story below and get tips from each of them on how they made the most out of the eHarmony process.

 He Said, She Said: How eHarmony Worked for Us

Tips from Jamie:
Andrew and I were matched up through eHarmony on December 5, 2008. We both happened to be sitting around at home on that Friday evening, and we got to Open Communication in a matter of hours. It was the fastest I’d ever moved through the entire process in the nine months I’d been on eHarmony.

Before I was matched with Andrew, I made sure to check my eHarmony account several times a week to keep up with current communications and to check and see if new ones had been initiated. I know it was pretty frustrating for me when I’d start going through the communication stages with someone, only for them to take a week or two to answer a set of questions. The website does let you know that you need to be patient and allow time for people who might take longer to get back to you. And it’s definitely true, some people just don’t get on as often. But I always appreciated it when I got answers within two or three days.

Camera Pics 010 300x225 He Said, She Said: How eHarmony Worked for UsThe thing Andrew and I agreed was the most important part of the process is being true to yourself. Be picky when you’re creating your profile and answering all those questions, but also keep in mind that you have to be open-minded. If you know that you would never be able to be with someone who smokes, then mark that as a factor that is extremely important to you. But try being a little relaxed on how far away the matches are that eHarmony sends you. I wanted someone who lived within 25 miles, but Andrew ended up living about 45 miles away. We made it work, and we are glad that we were open to someone who lived a little farther away than we ideally wanted.

Going along with being true to yourself, one of the most important parts of the process will be selecting the attributes for your “Must Have/Can’t Stand” list. Many times I was able to rule out a match at this stage because I either saw I wasn’t a good match for them based on their list or they clashed with the things I had selected on my list. This tool is critical in letting your matches know exactly what it is you are looking for, so make sure you give this section a lot of thought and be 100% honest about your choices.

When filling out your profile, be yourself. Do NOT say things that you think other people will want to hear. If you are first in line to see a Harry Potter movie at a midnight showing, put that in there somewhere!

It’s little personality traits and random quirks that catch people’s attention and make them want to know more. Family is important to me, so I made sure I mentioned that a few times in my profile. Andrew says that is what caught his attention the most, because he’s very family-oriented, and that is what made him want to get to know me more.

And whatever you do: do NOT close a match solely on how their profile picture looks! Everyone is entitled to take a bad picture, so at least take a moment to read through their profile and check out the other pictures they have available. Having several pictures on YOUR profile is always a good idea, too, so make sure you have plenty for your matches to view.

Finally, be patient. I was on for a total of nine months with eHarmony, broken up over the span of a year and a half. It took me that long to get matched with Andrew, while Andrew found me right away. So if you find that it’s not happening right away, remember that old adage: “Good things come to those who wait.” I never put that much stock in that expression because it seemed like I was always just waiting, with nothing coming from it. But I know Andrew and I both feel that the wait was worth it, because we could not be happier. We’re engaged to be married and are very much looking forward to a long and happy life together. Have faith in the process, because it really does work if you are open, honest, and patient.

Tips from Andrew:
My main tip to anyone who is interested in finding out about eHarmony is to leave the cliché of internet dating behind.  Joining eHarmony is the best thing I ever did.  You have to be true to yourself and take the time to actually get your profile completed without just going through to see what profiles are out there.

My main fear was that others would think that I was making a desperation shot in the dark to just meet someone.  That is far from the truth.  Everyone is very excited and happy that I was able to find the one that is everything to me.  I am the happiest I have been thanks to the results from being on eHarmony.

Indy Trip 2009 066 221x300 He Said, She Said: How eHarmony Worked for UsIn this day and age, it is one of the very best avenues out today for people to meet each other.  You have full control of how fast or slow you want to move through the process.  As it is when you meet anyone for the first time, you want to make a good first impression.  With your profile out for everyone to see, you no longer have to worry about the awkwardness of someone rejecting you completely with nowhere to go.  You know who you are going to meet (when you make that first leap to finally see each other) and feel very comfortable with knowing a lot about that person.  My first date with Jamie was wonderful.  It was short, but from that day on, I knew that she was perfect for me.

We are happy and planning for the rest of our lives together.  The journey has been exciting and eHarmony is the reason that I met the most special person to me in my life, my future wife, Jamie.  With our evenings now filled with wedding plans and future goals, we have a stronger bond and are enjoying each and every day much more.  Without having eHarmony, I would have never met Jamie and am truly grateful that the matching went so perfectly.

KUDOS and best wishes for those who are making the best decision of their life…to find their special soul mate.  Life throws you curves, but patience and honesty will get you exactly where you were meant to end up.

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